Although there are many sweet things about falling in love, there are also many troubling troubles. For example, in a relationship, a boy may make his girlfriend dissatisfied with something, and the girlfriend will start to "act" and either get sulky or make a big fuss. In the end, both of them are very unhappy. The reason is actually It's just trivial things like "not replying to messages in time". It's really hard for boys to understand such a girlfriend.
After "making it", when the boy coaxes his girlfriend, the girlfriend will make a 180-degree turn. Everything started to go smoothly, and it was like a completely different person. Occasionally, this is still acceptable, but repeated repetitions really make many boys feel tired, and maintaining a relationship is too time-consuming.
Today, senior Xiaoyu is here to talk to you about why girlfriends "act" and the psychological motivations behind their girlfriends' actions. "Making" may be due to the distortion of emotional cognition. When a girlfriend is obedient to a boy, she is idealizing her boyfriend. When she is constantly criticizing a boy, she is paranoid that her boyfriend does not love her and vents her anger. .
In daily life, people will idealize or paranoid the behavior of others, but having such behavior towards the same person is Distortions in emotional cognition. The corresponding psychological motivation stems from the "defense mechanism to deal with inner negative feelings." The ideal boyfriend is the girlfriend's self-protection of the relationship. Maybe such a recognition will make her feel that she is "worthy" of being loved. This kind of Self-comfort made her feel genuine pleasure.
At the same time, this distortion of emotional cognition also amplified her sensitive and fragile nerves. Any slight dissatisfaction can easily break this self-comfort, making her feel very uncomfortable and angry. This dissatisfaction Her rational state made her paranoid that her boyfriend was acting like this because he didn't love her enough, which led to the beginning of "acting".
The reason why the girlfriend’s emotional cognition is distorted is because the girlfriend’s lack of emotional cognition and her life experience This allowed her to form the subconscious mind that "people I think are good people and people who love me will never do anything that makes me dissatisfied." When the development of facts violates her "laws", she will become emotional and angry. , began to act like a monster.
Now that I understand the psychological motivation of my girlfriend to "act", I believe that many boys who love their girlfriends will try to gradually understand their girlfriends, but at the same time, they should also communicate with her at the right time. , let her realize the error of her behavior, otherwise letting her develop worse habits will only seriously damage the relationship between you.
