We often say that emotional value is very important in love. If you ask for emotional value too much, there will be bad feedback... Although everyone has listened, there are still many friends who don’t know what emotional value is! So today the editor is going to explain to you what emotional value means. Let’s take a look.
The emotional value in love is: the "positive emotions" felt by two people in the process of getting along are greater than the "negative emotions".
Let’s calculate it from the time dimension first:
When we have negative emotions (such as anger, sadness, anxiety, etc.), we may be so angry that we can’t do anything or cry a lot. Every day, you have to spend a lot of energy to deal with these emotions (such as chatting with friends or counselors to vent; eating a lot of favorite foods or exercising until you feel relaxed, etc.). Of course, many partners have no time because of their busy work and choose to suppress their emotions until they suffer from physical illness. Having to "pause" and so on)
So being in a bad mood is a very draining time and energy.
Calculated from biological science and medicine:
When negative emotions break out, our "brain power" and "cardiopulmonary function" will be damaged on a large scale, and those suppressed future Emotions that are legitimately released will eventually be vented out of control or surface in the form of "physical illness." Therefore, "bad mood" has real harm to body functions.
Finally, from a material perspective:
We buy clothes and shoes, and eat delicacies for the sake of face and taste. , to satisfy appetite and pleasure, to spend money to please a partner, etc. There are not many things that we need for basic survival. In fact, eating and sleeping do not cost much, and "emotional benefits" are almost the largest part of our financial expenses in life.
The process of interacting with people is actually an experience of "emotional investment and profit":
We can completely "plan" and "choose" our "emotional income and expenditure" and "life experience", thereby clarifying our interpersonal relationships and re-evaluating each other's positions and comfortable and healthy boundaries.
If we meet a partner with “low emotional intelligence” and the other person’s “language” or “behavior” often makes us feel uncomfortable, or even causes harm to our body, then this person is very important to us. , will bring us huge "emotional loss" and "physical and mental consumption".
At this time, we need to have an awareness: if we continue to have contact, we will experience the "negative energy package". If we want to experience it, we can let the other party suppress, deny or abuse, and experience the "sadism" that hurts the body and mind. "; If we don't want to experience it, then we can completely stop "emotional investment", stop losses in time, and keep distance from the other party.
SoDo you understand now? How important is emotional value in relationships? I hope you can all find the right person, come on~!
