In the traditional process of boys chasing girls, boys often praise girls too highly. They feel that girls are superior and they are very humble. They are pursuing each other, pleading with each other, hoping to get something. The other party's favor. Is this method of chasing girls effective? It can only be said that there are indeed boys who use this method to chase girls, but the efficiency is often not high. Let me share with you how boys can pursue girls.
1. The relationship is not equal when chasing a girl
When a boy is chasing a girl, you will find that your relationship is not equal. One is on top and the other is on the bottom. The person above is called a "prize", which means that all the good things she does to you are a reward. And you deserve everything from her, which is a kind of plea. For example: She went out to dinner with you today, and she agreed to go on a date with you. That is her reward for you. You have to cherish it.
And when you invite her to dinner, that’s what you should do. That’s because you’re begging me, because your relationship status is unequal. So when you pursue someone, you turn the other person into a prize. At this time, you invisibly increase your difficulty. Because everything you do is a matter of course, and all the kindness she treats you can only be obtained through your hard work, so the relationship is not equal.
You treat her to dinner or watch a movie, and you have to pay. You are a person who provides value, but often for you, she can go out for a meal with you. This has changed. It has become a luxury. So don't treat the other party as a prize, otherwise it will be very difficult to chase.
2. It is best to keep a normal mind when chasing girls
Boys should not use a pleading attitude when chasing girls , just keep it equal. For example: Hey, do you want to go out and play together this weekend? When she doesn't message you, don't say: Where are you? Why don't you reply to my message? Did I do something wrong? Think about it, if you chat with your buddy and he doesn't reply to your messages, will you still say that you did something wrong? Just keep your indifferent attitude.
Attention to gains and losses - Many people have a very, very strong attachment to gains and losses. They feel that without this person, I will die, and I must get this person. Today I sent a message and she didn’t reply to me, so I was very distressed. Just being focused on gains and losses will make you do a lot of stupid things.
Where does the attachment to gain and loss come from - it means that you have too much hope and wishful thinking. The hope you give yourself is too high. The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. In fact, you should have a normal mentality. Go and chat with her. If she doesn't reply, she won't. Of course it will be better if you reply. The more you want her, the less she will be.
Because a girl can feel that the pressure you put on her is too strong, and she will have scruples. She occupies 40% - 50% in your heart is actually a lot, and you have moreIt is to maintain your wonderful life.
