Why do boys take the initiative after giving up on girls? This is a common phenomenon that many girls have encountered. So, what is the reason that causes boys to start pursuing after losing? Let us discuss it together.
1. Insufficient sense of security
When boys pursue girls, they often need a certain response and affirmation , otherwise they will feel that their efforts are not recognized. If girls' advances toward them are not obvious enough or frequent enough, boys will feel unsure and give up. But when girls show attention to other men or stimulate their jealousy intentionally or unintentionally, boys will become interested again and pursue them harder.
2. Pay attention to the degree of cherishment
People always underestimate the things they already own and overestimate the things they don’t own. By the same token, in the eyes of boys, girls may not be that special or precious. But when the girls leave them, they will find that they have truly fallen in love with them and begin to reflect on their previous behaviors and attitudes. As a result, they will actively pursue girls and cherish them even more.
3. Avoiding responsibility
When some boys pursue girls, they are just out of temporary interest or looking for excitement. But when they find out that they really like a girl, they don't know how to face and deal with this feeling. Therefore, they choose to give up to avoid responsibilities and commitments. But when a girl leaves them, they realize their mistake and start trying to regain their lost relationship.
4. Self-Growth
Some boys may not have fully matured or found their own direction when pursuing girls. But after they experience a period of growth and development, they will re-examine their life and values. As a result, they will re-recognize the importance of girls and begin to actively pursue them.
Boys only take the initiative after giving up on girls. The reasons are different. Some boys need to be affirmed and safe, some boys need to reflect on their behaviors and attitudes, some boys need to avoid responsibilities and commitments, and some boys need to experience self-growth. No matter what the reason is, it shows that boys are not people who give up easily, but need time and opportunities to get to know themselves and girls. Therefore, girls should also give boys enough space and time to give them the opportunity to re-recognize their own value and importance.
