In the past, love between men and women was based on the words of parents and matchmakers; now, love between men and women is based on true love and emotional routines. Modern people's time is becoming more and more tight. Teenagers are busy with studies, and middle-aged people are busy with work. As a result, many singles have no experience in love, do not know how to fall in love, and do not know the routines of falling in love.
In 1956, Erich Fromm summarized the routine of love in his work "The Art of Loving":
Innocent, childlike The principle of mature love is: "I love because I am loved."
The principle of mature love is: "I am loved because I love others."
No Mature and childish love is: "I love you because I need you."
And mature love is: "I need you because I love you."
1. Preparation
If you want to do your job well, you must first sharpen your tools. Falling in love without preparation is just an exercise. If singles want to learn the routines of falling in love, they must know the preparations needed to fall in love.
Before meeting a girl, you need to prepare a dress and enough money; when chatting with a girl, you need to prepare topics and topics; when dating a girl, you need to prepare a date plan and arrangements. What's the best way to fall in love without preparation? Making girls feel happy, comfortable and natural when getting along with you is the art of love.
2. Take the initiative
The past belongs to Death, and the future belongs to you. ——Shelley Only proactive people can grasp love. Don't think about being single in the past, but plan how you will fall in love in the future.
Love is not something you have to wait for, it needs to be fought for by yourself. How can a single guy chat with a girl if he doesn’t take the initiative to strike up a conversation? How can he pursue a girl if he doesn’t take the initiative to meet a girl? How can a story happen if he doesn’t take the initiative to ask a girl out?
p>3. Seduction
Lin Xi’s lyrics “What you can’t get are always turbulent”, which can be said to be a good summary of the key to falling in love – play hard to get, if you want to pursue a girl, just do it. You have to learn how to seduce girls. A so-called sportsman is a man who uses his appearance to seduce girls.
The first thing to note is that seduction is not a derogatory term. It is a behavior of attracting and deliberately keeping away from girls. When a girl pays attention to your mystery, she has already been seduced by your charm.
4. Praise
Men feel more pleasure in the appearance of the opposite sex, while women feel more pleasure in the appearance of the opposite sex.The opposite sex's conversation can be more attractive. Therefore, many women like boys who are "sweet" and can praise them, and boys who can coax girls.
The art of falling in love lies in appreciating the other person and expressing it - praising, rather than blindly showing your good side. Love is about giving, not receiving. Love is about your ability to care for girls. , respect girls, have a sense of responsibility and understand girls.
