Question: I would like to ask a boy if this request for a blind date is too much? Why does it feel so difficult to meet the right person on a blind date?
Self-introduction: Coordinates are Chengdu.
Age and appearance: 91 years/185cm/85kg/ordinary appearance
Work salary: Engaged in the Internet industry/currently 1 million+/year
Personal evaluation: No bad habits / No drinking / Occasionally smoking / No playing cards / No playing games...
Other conditions: divorced, having children with the woman/no house or car (can be purchased at any time, can write the woman’s name)
Requirements for the other half (if you don’t say it, there are no requirements)
Age and appearance: 22-26 years old/looking at As long as you have a good eye
Personality and temperament: I like girls who are smart, gentle, and aware of the sufferings of the world/I don’t like strong women
Personal habits: Don’t smoke, don’t stay in nightclubs, don’t indulge In Mahjong.
Other conditions: no children, personality and temperament are mandatory requirements. If explained, it means strong empathy and online emotional intelligence, no need to do anything.
Boys’ blind date requirements
Answer: I think your requirements are actually not high, but it is still quite difficult to meet a candidate who meets your requirements in all aspects. And what I'm curious about is, why do you still get divorced when you have such good conditions and have children?
Because in my understanding, most couples will not divorce after having children, except for major issues of principle. Especially when economic conditions are acceptable. And you see that you have enough money (you can buy a RV at any time, and you can write the woman's name), your personal evaluation is quite high even if it is not perfect, and you can buy a house so aggressively, why did you get divorced?
If it’s not all your ex-wife’s fault, it means you’ve hidden something very important. I don’t want to offend your ex-wife here, but I just want to say that my understanding of you from your words is at least 90% accurate. Theoretically speaking, one should not be given up easily, and at the same time, it should be easy to find the person you like.
Let’s take a look at your requirements for your partner. The requirements for character and temper are relatively abstract, with strong empathy and online emotional intelligence. If I don’t do it, I personally think it’s not easy for a woman in her thirties or forties to do it. There are very few people in their early 20s who can do this. It seems quite difficult to find the right candidate.
Especially for girls in their early 20s, probably no one wants to be a stepmother. Although your children are with your ex-wife, they will still be your responsibility for the rest of their lives. Do I still have to pay child support every month? To put it bluntly, even if a girl is willing to be with you, the girl's parents probably won't be able to pass the test.
To sum up: I feel that your conditions are good, but you also have shortcomings, especially for youThe conditions for dating girls are quite harsh, and you are not willing to compromise, so it is quite difficult to meet a suitable candidate.
