For some boys who are inexperienced in love, it is easy to fall into some misunderstandings when chasing girls, causing them to be slowly alienated by the girls they want to pursue. Let’s take you through the three major misunderstandings that boys tend to fall into when chasing girls.
1. Distrust
Of course, if you love someone, you must be honest with them, but everyone Have their own little secret, everyone needs their own private space. Give each other a little freedom, which is the basis of mutual trust.
What many brothers like to do is to tell the girl all their inner thoughts and tell the girl that they don’t want to lie to her. If this girl has never been in love, she may still be able to take advantage of you. But in front of girls with high emotional intelligence, this approach is actually very childish.
There are also some boys who always feel insecure when pursuing girls. When a girl goes shopping, you start asking her questions via video. If a girl is busy and doesn't reply to you in time, you will think that she deliberately ignores you.
And the reason why you feel insecure is actually because you are not doing well enough. To be honest, if we are very attractive, do you think girls will go out and have sex?
There is also a kind of boy who starts asking a girl all kinds of questions before he is in a relationship. When he sees the girl eating with other boys, he starts getting angry. In the eyes of girls, this is undoubtedly harassment.
2. Let’s settle old scores
If you don’t want to say something, don’t say it. If you can’t accept it, don’t force yourself to accept it. , since you accepted it, don’t mention the past anymore.
Everyone has more or less unbearable pasts, and everyone has made mistakes. Although some things are not simply acceptable, girls are still willing to put them all into perspective. I tell you, that's great too.
There is a saying that you should not slap someone in the face when you hit them, and you should not expose their shortcomings when you scold them.
The most important thing for two people together is their current life and each other. If you can't forget that hurdle, it's better for the two of you to leave right now. For your own good, and for her own good.
Even though you clearly cannot accept it, you still mention it all the time. You think it is you who is hurting, but in fact, the girl is hurt more deeply.
3. Moral kidnapping
When you were a child, your parents would always force you to do something you didn’t like. , but he will also tell you something sincere and irrefutable: "My child, we are doing this for your own good~" Maybe you know this is for your own good, but do you like it? Are you willing? If you have the opportunity to resist, will you accept it?
Generally speaking, boys oftenIn terms of moral kidnapping, he is actually a very unopinionated person. Because you know that your ability cannot change everything, so you want the girl to bear it with you.
She may be able to accept it just because you are almost catching up with her, but a person’s patience has its limits. If you keep kidnapping her morally, one day she will feel cold towards you and gradually alienate you. you.
